Spousal support or alimony can be both the most contentious and complicated discussion in a divorce negotiation. One spouse may need it, but the other spouse does not want to pay it. It is a long-term commitment and connection, both things that a divorce is trying to end. But in most long-term marriages it is a financial right. How can you develop a strategy in asking for your alimony?
Know the Rules of the Game
One thing that is not obvious to a layperson is the rules around spousal support calculations are state specific. Some states have a set percentage, other states relate payments to the length of the marriage and duration of the payment while others do not allow spousal support at all but designate funds to be paid for a limited time for specifically prescribed purposes. Understanding the framework of how spousal support is calculated in your area is your starting point.
Next factor in the 2017 tax reform that eliminated the tax deductibility of alimony and made it tax free to the recipient. The effect has been a reduction in the amount, or the percentages paid in most jurisdictions.
Make Sure You Consider All Income Sources
It is critical that you focus on all income sources. This is where a CDFA can be of help. We are used to asking and locating all income sources. Be aware of your date of separation as this is often the dividing line for the division of both marital assets and income.
Some of the most common income categories are:
Review Expenses
Begin the Calculation Process
Here it is important to review both the income and expenses, identify and correct any unusual patterns and begin to consider the possibilities.
The important thing to recognize that spousal support is unique to each divorce unraveled by each unique data set.

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